Tools

Ehara taku toa i te toa takitahi, engari he toa takitini.

My success is not mine alone, it is the success of the collective.

Atawhai Practice Gems

Listen to your puku, what is not being said?

Confidence in asking questions about violence comes in time.

Realise the bias we each carry.

Don’t feel bad if you might not have done or said the ‘right thing’, you can learn from that and do something different next time.

Convey allyship, ask what they think.

Kia aro ki te haa o te tangata, kia ora ai. Read the energy in front of you. Adjust the way you communicate.

Use your supervision and peer group support.

Know first who you are and where you come from.

What if it were you? What would you want to happen?

Know what, and how, before why.

What would I say to me?

Kōrero is key, but really hear them. Whakarongo is key.

If you tell teka, instead of tika, you will never be pono and end up with mana.

It feels good to know you have colleagues you can call on for help.

Think about what is not being said.

Try listening instead.

Be authentic.

There are people out there that keep things quiet

If the wairua is not right, the tinana is not right.

Acknowledge your own and others healing.

Tackling the response part of it is important.

Ask “what do you want to tell me today?”

Do what you love and love what you do.

If the awa is not smooth they may leap out of the waka.

Bring the love back into kōrero and relationships.

It takes all of us to change how things are done.

Move from closed answers and create the conversation.

You get better at dealing with it once you have given it a go the first time.

It’s like having a Swiss army knife in your back pocket.

We need to know our community and believe we can make a difference.

Hori Ahomiro | Kaitiakitanga Atawhai

John Copeland | Research Participant Whānau

Sue Elliot | Research Participant Whānau

Glynn Rogers | Research Participant Whānau

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Discover primary care family violence training opportunities with MEDSAC

Find out about the New Zealand Ministry of Health Violence Intervention Programme

Read New Zealand guidelines on responding to family violence in health care

Explore the New Zealand Primary Health Care Family Violence Responsiveness Evaluation Tool