Ehara taku toa i te toa takitahi, engari he toa takitini.
My success is not mine alone, it is the success of the collective.
Atawhai Practice Gems
Listen to your puku, what is not being said?
Realise the bias we each carry.
Confidence in asking questions about violence comes in time.
Don’t feel bad if you might not have done or said the ‘right thing’, you can learn from that and do something different next time.
Think about what is not being said.
Ask “what do you want to tell me today?”
Try listening instead.
Convey allyship, ask what they think.
Kia aro ki te hā o te tangata, kia ora ai. Read the energy in front of you. Adjust the way you communicate.
Use your supervision and peer group support.
Know first who you are and where
you come from.
Ka pēhea mehemea i pērātia ko koe? Ka pēhea ō tūmanako mō te ara whakamua?
Mahia tāu e aroha nā, arohaina tāu e mahi nā.
Kia mōhio ki te āhuatanga i tū, i mua i tō whiriwhiri i te take i pērā ai.
Mēnā e ngarungaru ana te moana, ka peka atu pea te tangata i te waka.
Ka noho puku ētahi o tātou te hunga tangata.
Whakahokia mai te aroha ki roto i te kōrerorero me te whanaungatanga.
Ki te kore e tau te taha wairua, e kore e ora te taha tinana.
Kia hoe tahi tātou katoa e huri ai
te waka ki te ara tika.
Ki te koke whakamua, me anga whakamuri – kia mārama ki te mpānga o ngā wheako o nanahi
ki ngā mahi o nāianei, o āpōpō
Kāti te pātai nui; kia kaha te wānanga.
Kia āta whakautu koe i ngā kōrero e whākina mai ana.
The GEM card deck collates ‘practice gems’ for engaging with whānau and families impacted by family violence within primary care settings.
Ngā mihi nui te whānau Atawhai for sharing these gems during the research project. Te Reo Māori translation by Ngareta Timutimu, (Ngai te Rangi, Ngati Ranginui, MNZM) and Melissa Bryant (Ngāti Pakeha) Funded by: Health Research Council of New Zealand.